Mantra of Happiness.
In 1963, Meteorologist Edward Lorenz postulated that flapping of a butterfly’s wings in Singapore could affect a hurricane in North Carolina. Butterfly flap is such a trivial thing but a hurricane isn’t. In life, we do deluge of small actions,even without thinking what we are doing, which will make our life good or catastrophic in future. You may have experienced the big consequences of small things more than me.
One day I was scrolling down 9 gag.com and a one single post took my eyes and stifled what I was doing. A glass full of small and folded paper pieces. The first thought popped in my mind was “Marijuana could be inside and this person has accumulated that secretly.” But I suddenly saw the headline of the post. “I wrote all the good things happened to me and now I believe that my life is a blessing”.
What the person has done was she had written all the good things happen to her in paper pieces and put all the papers into a glass jar. She had continued doing the same thing for a long time. Now the jar is full and her heart too. Thanking to that lady, I was prevailed to research on her act. I googled, asked my mother and my friends. As a result of that I got to know about a book named “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne.
In a nutshell, the book was all about how we can pay the gratitude and what would happen if we do so. That book totally sparked me to workout on that gratitude thing. Rather telling what book says I prefer share my experience on the pursuit of paying gratitude.
Since I’m an early bird, I got up 4 O’ clock and I allocated 4.15 am to 4.30 am, 15 minutes (I think morning is my time), as my gratitude paying time for my last 6 months. I tore 10 paper pieces from a white paper and remember my previous day. I lined up all the good things happened to me and picked the best 10 things back in my mind. Then I started writing one by one. If I needed to thank a person, I wrote “I’m truly blessed to have (person’s name) because ( the reason why I’m thankful)” as an example I’m truly blessed to have Amma because she took care of me when I had the headache. If I needed to thankful for any non living thing or any other good thing happened to me, I wrote “I’m truly grateful for (Thing I’m grateful for) because (the reason why I’m thankful)” as an example I’m truly grateful for the meals I had yesterday because it helped me to be more energetic.
I have a bottle full of paper chits today. Apart from that, I exudes happiness of me. Here are the top 5 advantages I consume as a result of my small act.
I’m happy about my life.
Exactly. I was able to fill my heart’s content of being happy. In every morning, I only focus on the good things happened to me. I have totally forgotten about the bad things at all. Now my expressions are bland on unhappiness. Life is too short to be sad. So why be sad?
I’m confident about what I have.
Whenever I write to pay my gratitude, I know I have something to be grateful. It means I’m not a useless, worthless piece of shit. I know that I have a substantial value. That is all enough for me to stand up straight.
I’ve enhanced my relationship with my lovelies.
We all aren’t perfect. But still we can be perfect for the people we love. Love is a verb not a noun. Love is an act. I always appreciate small acts of caring. Hence I always had something to be grateful for love I received from my lovelies. When we are grateful for something, we get more of that. So no doubts, I received more love from the people I love.
People stopped loathing me.
As humans, sometimes we have to spend our valuable time with other humans. We cannot live our lives alone.
“When the snows fall and the white winds blow, the lone wolf dies, but the pack survives” — Game Of Thrones.
What if the people you surround, don’t like you. You’ll be sad and depressed. You have to construe that we have to be with people, good ones. Whenever you pays the gratitude, you enriches your relationship with other humans and you always exudes your sincerity. It makes you more likable to others. People will automatically build the rapport with you. You’ll be able to have a set of people who will never leave you in a problem.
You feel the Pygmalion effect.
Simply the Pygmalion effect is the phenomenon whereby others’ expectations of a target person affect the target person’s performance. Whenever you are grateful, You believe that thing as blessings. As a result of that, You admires that and thankful. It will help you to aggrandize your circle of intimates, your colleagues and your family.
